"Feelings"

They say Opposites Attract.
And in our case it couldn't be more true.
Almost every day I find myself wondering how in the world James puts up with me.
Why is it that I absolutely love talking about problems...
but don't want James to fix them?
It makes absolutely no sense...
but for some reason it feels awfully good to cry.blabber.wine.complain.etc.
Just for the pure sake of talking about my feelings.

Our Marriage Prep teacher talked about this very thing.
Men need to learn to just say,
"I am sorry. I know how you are feeling"
And women need to learn to categorize conversations either as...
"I want you to fix this..."
or
"I just want you to listen..."

It has gotten quite hysterical around our house.
I am trying to be logical
and James is trying to be sensitive.
It cracks me up when James looks at me.
Completely straight faced
and says...
"I know how you are feeling."
Despite the fact that I know its a canned answer.
I still really love it.

I even love that at night James plops down next to me..
turns on my phone
starts playing his favorite game...
and says, "How did you feel about your day."
It works quite nicely.

I pour out every feeling that was felt throughout the day...

and James zones out.

Occasionally he will insert an

"oh no she didn't."

or "I know how you feel"

It's a great compromise!

But sometimes.
All of the marital advice goes out the door.
I cry and blabber.
And poor James tries to solve problems in the midst of my nonsense.

Tonight was one of those nights.
and of course - 30 minutes after my blabbing
I came to my senses and realized that I was completely irrational
and in my girly feelings mode.
I am away from James tonight and the thing that made me smile the most
was getting a text that said,
"I am here to stay."
Which made my feelings feel fabulous.

I thought Claire and Phil demonstrated our daily martial dilemma quite well on this weeks
Modern Family.
Made me realize I am not blabbering alone in my feelings.
Oh how my married life cracks me up.